Look for types you’ve not considered before. Chances are you’ll find someone who stirs you in a way beyond words. Most people are attracted to the same sort – consciously or unconsciously they repeat the same mistakes. After a period of exciting tension, everything is over and they’re left nursing their wounds.
Nothing is more seductive than a sense of destiny. Look for someone with shared interests, shared goals, a smile that makes your heart flutter, and a knowingness in their eyes. Don’t be afraid to take a chance on someone who is not your usual cup of tea.
Beautiful paintings may be full of charm but what keeps the eye from roving is a depth beyond the painting. A magic so bewitching and unforgettable and complex that the external gloss pales into insignificance. Dare to be different yourself too.
When you meet someone special - focus on being interested not interesting. The second bit should come naturally, but showing an interest in others will make you stand out because most people find it a difficult skill to master. They don’t have the discipline, patience or desire to make listening a priority.
Stop. Breathe. Smile. Have fun. Ask questions. Listen attentively. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Unless someone asks, they’re not interested in the size of your wallet or the year you spent travelling around Asia. They want to feel attractive. So shine a light on them, and if they return the favour by doing the same, you’ll strike up a natural rapport.
Not sure what to ask? Figure out what topics excite them and take it from there. You’ll know instantly when something floats their boat because it will show in their eyes and their mannerisms.
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